Breaking the Stigma: Fathers it's your turn!

Fathers it's your turn!

You're at the hospital, your heart is racing, and your thoughts and feelings are rushing. You question yourself what the future might hold now that you're a dad and with that comes many responsibilities, you carry your baby for the first time between your hands, you go home with your partner, and things start changing.

Days become sleepless nights with all the exhaustion and overwhelming feelings. Even your relationship with your partner becomes to change, you might start viewing your wife differently, noticing all the bodily changes she's passing through, her mood shifts, her anger, and unusual acts. Here you may want to stop throwing uncontrollable judgments, and ask yourself: "Why is all that happening? How can I support my partner and be there for her?"

First, let me explain that such feelings your partner is passing through are directly linked to mommy blues, which is also known as postpartum depression, which can affect a mother's mental health after childbirth and that's completely normal! But what's not normal is for you not to recognize that this is a medical condition that requires support and treatment. Here, I'll let share some of the tips that I usually share with men that come hopeless and not able to act upon what their partner is passing through. You have to educate yourself, learn about mommy blues, and try to understand what your partner is going through. Listen to her and provide emotional support, by encouraging her to open up and validate her feelings. Encourage your partner to take care of herself, both physically and mentally, give her days off the mommy mission, by maybe booking her a spa day, or even cooking a meal she loves, taking care of the baby, and maybe doing the household tasks. If your partner's symptoms persist or worsen it might be time to seek professional help, and I'm there for you to help you act and be the support your partner needs. Empower yourself as a father and partner, and always remember to B Confident even in being a support system!